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When my readers sign up to receive my emails, they receive a welcome email where I ask how I can help them overcome their struggles with weight loss.

Below you will read REAL women’s emails back to me. I read each one to help direct future content so I can make a real difference in these women’s lives.

For every one email, hundreds of others have the same struggles. I want these struggles to be a thing of the past so please read and post your comments below.

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Question 1

Hi Flavia, I subscribed to your newsletter because I need lots of help. I am in my later 40’s and I have been struggling with weight my entire life. I was told that I have a sluggish metabolism and it will be harder for someone like me to lose weight. Just a month ago I quit eating foods with sugar and I have managed to lose 23 pounds. I need someone that has been through the struggles of trying to get this weight off and I need someone to help with what exercises will help me tone my body up. I am so tired of feeling bad about myself when I look in the mirror. I am ready for a big change. Melissa



Thank you Melissa for being so honest and open! It wasn’t long ago that I felt the same way…about 8 weeks ago in fact.
What changed?

I began to talk to myself positively. I stopped making excuses and did something about it.

Melissa, great job on losing 23 pounds! WOW. That is tough to do. You have come so far ALL ON YOUR OWN. Be proud. Tell yourself you rock…go on, I’ll wait..

Now that you know how to eat better, it’s time to step things up! Have you started working out? If not it’s time to set a date and a timeframe. If you remember from the last Q & A post (you can find it here)…


Goals must be:


Written down

Set for a specific deadline


This is exactly what I did. I got out of bed earlier than my kids, set up a time 4 times a week to workout and DID NOT SKIP ONE WORKOUT, set a timeframe of 6 weeks and started a nutrition plan.

If you need help with a workout and nutrition plan you can start here: FULL-BODY-LICIOUS

I hired a trainer for accountability. I met her Mon – Tues – Thurs – Fri at 8am. That was realistic for me but still a big challenge with 2 young kids. I fought internally almost every single workout after the “honeymoon phase” which lasted 2 weeks.

Next I pulled out Flavilicious Cooking and my list of WHAT NOT TO EAT and began having my meals ready ahead of time so I wouldn’t be stuck without food, hungry, and too busy, leaving me with the alternative; eating out or snacking.

I also rewarded myself with a treat meal Friday night if I adhered to my nutrition plan 100% SAT-FRI the week before. That included pizza (leaving out foods I was allergic too), WINE, bread, whatever I craved. ONE MEAL, ONCE A WEEK.


  • Sugar
  • MSG and free glutamates
  • HFCS (high fructose corn syrup)
  • Gluten
  • All wheat-based products:

All breads-all breakfast cereals, noodles, pasta, bagels, muffins, pancakes, waffles, donuts, pretzels, crackers, oat products-oatmeal, oat bran (unless you can find the wheat-free brand) sauces or gravies thickened with corn- starch, prepared or processed foods containing cornstarch, cornmeal products like chips, tacos, tortillas

  • Sugary soft drinks, candies
  • Limit dairy to 2-3 times a week



  • Vegetables (fresh or frozen, never canned) – unlimited vegetables (except potatoes)
  • Fruit: I stick to one a day when losing weight
  • Raw nuts and raw seeds
  • Healthy oils: olive, flaxseed, coconut, avocado, walnut
  • Meats: red meats, pork, fish, chicken, turkey, eggs (Consider free-range, grass-fed and/or organic sources.)
  • Non-wheat grains: ground flaxseed, chia seeds, millet, brown rice, quinoa, buckwheat, bean flours, amaranth, arrowroot
  • Drinks: teas, coffee, water, unsweetened almond milk, coconut milk or coconut water
  • Cheeses—real cultured cheeses preferably and only 2-3 times a week
  • Avocado or guacamole
  • Hummus, unsweetened condiments: mustard, ketchup without high-fructose corn syrup, pesto, tapenades, olives



Eat 4 meals a day with protein in each sitting all from whole foods when possible. Limit powders or use after workouts only. I cut all protein powders for 6 weeks to ensure I was getting enough calories for my intense workouts (plus I am breastfeeding so I needed a lot of calories).


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See you inside the forums,

Join the discussion 6 Comments

  • Roni says:

    I can relate to all you are saying. I am 52 and have gained 20lbs that won’t come off. I eat correctly all the time. I drink tons of water. I exercise high intensity, yoga, pilates, weights 4 to 5 times a week. I have tried several programs. Nothing seems to work.
    Please let me know if you have any other ideas that can finally help me shed the 20lbs i need so badly to lose.

    thank you

  • Nikki says:

    which programme do you recommend for the novice, who struggles with a lower back issue, tight hip flexors and zero upper body strength. I cannot do one single push up, not even a modified knee push up (broken both wrists several times and now really weak). Help!

    • Anna says:

      Hi Nikki,
      I would recommend Flavia’s Full Body Licious program. In it she specifies how to modify and illustrates the beginner friendly version 🙂 Let us know if you have any specific questions!
      All the best,
      Anna, CPT, FF Specialist

    • Lynn says:

      Read the book “Wheat Belly” at your library or Amazon, then check out a website called “Elana’s Pantry” for great wheat substitute recipes. By the way, I hate cooking and even I can handle her simple bread recipes. I’ve been addicted to wheat my whole life (49 years), but I’ve succeeded in getting off of wheat over the past few weeks by using Elana’s online recipes. I can’t stress enough the need to read Wheat Belly! The first book in the series has a picture of stacked bagels on the cover.

  • Mariah says:

    Thank you so muuch for sharing this!!! This happened to me a couple of months ago, I noticed some good results the firsts months but afterwards I felt it wasn’t working anymore, so I tried everything , I looked up for the reasons and everything you posted is so true, the only thing I was missing was the time to relax and recover, I thought that wasn’t important enough to actually do it the right way until I was so frustrated that I felt I was about to explote, so I started to make some changes in my life, I tried to relax but it was really hard for me until a friend of mine gave me some meditation exercises, I focused on that and my routine too and I started to notice the change, not only in my body but how I felt, I re design my bathroom into a spa so when I come back from the gym I don’t have any excuse to say that I can not relax after workout or that I can’t meditate and is actually working, is amazing how important is this step in order to see real results!!

  • Evie Dawson says:

    Is is important to do exercise in daily routine, because it makes your body fit and active.

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